Signs she is keeping you as Plan B

Being a back-up option rarely shows in words. It shows in investment: who starts the conversations, who makes the plans, and what happens when you stop pushing.

The clearest signals are a one-sided initiation ratio, replies that come fast only when she needs something, plans that stay vague, and contact with admirers she keeps hidden. One of these can be a bad week. Several together, for months, are a pattern.

None of this says anything about your worth. It says your energy is going to someone who has not matched it yet. The test below scores your situation on behaviour and tells you where to put that energy instead.